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In October 2017, the New York Times released a report in which Hollywood executive Harvey Weinstein was accused of sexual harassment, assault, and rape. The accounts, some of which came from A-list actresses like Gwyneth Paltrow and Angelina Jolie , were horrifying and heart breaking. They also served as a catalyst for many other women to come forward with their stories of sexual harassment and assault at the hands of other Hollywood big shots.

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The immense coverage of sexual assault and harassment, while important, can be difficult to handle. Fans pick up the piece of their shattered image. Victims of sexual assault find the news triggering. Family and friends try to make sense of someone they love doing something so "out of character."

And then you have kids, who are likely hearing this news, but not quite understanding the magnitude and meaning. They may come to you with questions and, rather than brush them off, you should be prepared to answer them. Not only to educate them on sexual assault and harassment , but to prevent them from being victims or perpetrators.

Here are some tips from experts on talking to your kids about sexual assault and harassment.

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This is a heavy topic, and not one you want to spring on a child.Julia Simens, a clinical psychologist, told INSIDER that parents should find a time when, "there aren't any stressors going on" and you won't be cut off too soon.

2. Use terms they understand.

Simplicity will be key when talking to children about sexual harassment and assault. Although many argue that you shouldn't downplay sexor use "cutesy" words foranatomy with children, you do have to speak to them in a way they'll understand. That's starts with choosing the right words which, in this case, in bullying.

"I seesexual harassment as a subset of bullying," Jill Stanley , a former criminal defense lawyerandlegal commentator, told INSIDER. "It's when someone who perceives themselves in a higher position of power and uses that to get their way."

Dr. Kathryn Stamoulis , a licensed mental health counselor who specializes in female adolescent sexuality, agreed, adding that using the term bullying, "might be helpful for parents who may feel uncomfortable."

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3. Turn to pop culture as an aid.

When it comes to talk to older kids, Stamoulis suggested parents use pop culture to get the conversation going.

"If, for example, a parent hears the word sluton a show, I think that's a good jumping off point," she said. "Ask them, 'What does that mean? Have you heard that said to someone else? How did that make them feel?' and explain that it's not alright to use."

4. Listen rather than speak.

During your talk, your child may tell you about a time they or someone they know washarassed. If this happens, it's important not to inundate them with questions. DonnaPalomba, founder of thenonprofit advocacy group Jane Doe No More ,said it's best to "just be there for them and let the conversation flow."

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"One of the big things that we hear kids say is, 'I want to tell mymom something, but every time Iopen the door to a conversation, I get pummeled with questions,'" she told INSIDER."Be attentive, listen, and don't ask a million questions."

5. Leave the door open for future conversations.

It's important that your child know they can come to you about this at any time. But you can't just leave it on them.

As your child grows up, this encounters and experiences with sexual misconduct may change. That's why it's imperative that you have regularly conversations with them.

"[Parents]have to hit it at different ages," Simens said. "You can't just do it once and say, 'finished with that.'"

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It will never be easy to talk about sexual harassment, assault, and rape especially with a child. But it is essential to changing the way we as a society view and handle the issue.

If you are a victim of sexual assault, you can visit RAINN or call its hotline at 1-800-656-4673 to receive confidential support from a trained staff member.

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